Divorce can bring out the worst in people. From legal battles to trying to "one-up" each other with the kids, it can be difficult to learn that there really are no "winners" when it comes to divorce. Most divorcing couples who have children do want what is best for them; however, it is often hard to see what is best if their sight is always on who crosses the finish line first.
According to one woman, when two parents want to win in a divorce, the losers end up being the children. It's often easy to spot the children whose parents have put their own needs before their children's. It's the parents who are simply not able to get along at all, even for the sake of the kids. They don't attend birthday parties, school performances or athletic activities at the same time because they know it could end up in an argument.
If you listen to your children, they will tell you a lot about the relationship between you and the other parent. They can see that you two don't need to be in the same room together. They know each of you will try to outdo the other one when it comes to birthdays. They hear you when you try to tell them that their other parent is someone they shouldn't get along with.
Instead of partaking in such activities, you and the other parent should seek help. Consider attending counseling in Pennsylvania that focuses on co-parenting. This can be an excellent choice when it comes to helping build a normal relationship between the two of you and with your children. While life after divorce with children isn't always easy, it doesn't have to be as hard sometimes, either.
Source: Huffington Post, "There Are No Winners...," Valerie DeLoach, Feb. 18, 2016