There are a lot of things to take into consideration when contemplating divorce. Individuals often worry about finances, living circumstances and the well-being of their children. Parents in Pennsylvania may be interested in Dr. Kenneth Ginsburg’s book, “Building Resilience in Children and Teens: Giving Kids Roots and Wings.” Several principles may help parents assist their children through expected changes that come with divorce and child custody.
According to Dr. Ginsburg, raising a child to have certain life skills can help them adjust when life changes occur. The skills are called the “7 Cs of Resilience” and can be effective for multiple different stresses that children may encounter. The skills include competence, confidence, connection, character, contribution, coping and control.
In addition, maintaining consistency and routine as much as possible during a divorce may also help children cope with changes. Dr. Ginsburg also encourages parents to create unique connective experiences with their children, especially if living arrangements may prevent a parent from being with a child physically. The doctor also recommends assuring children they are not the reason for a divorce. Furthermore, no matter the marital strife that may occur between a former spouse, the doctor encourages both parents to remain neutral in order to prevent a child from being in an awkward position.
Any divorce is certainly emotional and stressful. When children are involved, additional stress is often expected. Parents in Pennsylvania processing a divorce and child custody negotiations may find the expertise of a family law attorney helpful. An attorney can assist an individual in negotiating with a spouse to achieve the outcome desired.