There are multiple reasons couples in Pennsylvania may decide that a divorce is in their best interest. Some may divorce due to affairs, debt, gambling, addiction or lying. Some simply do not share the type of love to maintain a healthy marriage and instead wish to live separate lives. There are often multiple questions from friends and family members, and some questions may be difficult to answer. Couples may find the most difficult questions to answer about their pending divorce and child custody will come from their own children.
Often, the reasons children suspect their parents may be divorcing may depend on their age. Younger children may be oblivious to underlying actions by one or both parents that may have led to a divorce, but it is sometimes harder to hide things from teenagers. It is natural for many children to ask questions and be curious about the reasons that may have led to a divorce. Some children may feel that they are to blame.
Parents are first encouraged to help children understand that they are not to blame. When questions are asked, it is best to stop and think before answering. Some parents may find that asking their children questions first to grasp what they do understand is the best approach. Once a child’s understanding is known, a parent can correct any misunderstandings.
There is a wealth of information and professional help available to parents approaching a difficult and sensitive divorce. Pennsylvania family law attorneys are certainly a valuable asset to many clients. In addition to advising through the logistics of a divorce, attorneys can advise on the best child custody options to achieve the desired outcome.