It's a common thought that people should stay together instead of getting a divorce "for the sake of the kids." While this may still be the sentiment in some families, one relationship specialist believes that being in a home that is peaceful and not full of hostile emotions is the better choice.
In many cases, when children grow up with parents who are unhappy, it is worse than if the parents had just divorced. The relationship specialist said that children learn from their parents how a relationship should be. If they see their parents are unhappy and staying in a marriage that has disrespect, bad communication or one parent who has no voice, it is what they likely emulate in their own relationship.
The woman did say that she tells her clients to make sure that they have done everything possible in order to save the marriage. Consider therapy or talk to a pastor. Work toward trying to save your marriage unless it is unhealthy for you and the children to be in it. If after trying to save your marriage you realize that it simply is not going to happen, then it's time to consider your options for separating. You will be able to tell your children that you tried to stay together.
Children can experience an extreme array of emotions, from anger to fear and relief. They may be relieved that you two won't be fighting anymore in the home.
If you feel that a divorce is the best choice for you, then an Allegheny attorney can provide information on how to proceed. Your attorney can also recommend therapists for you and your children if needed.
Source: Huffington Post, "Divorce for the Sake of the Kids," Shauna Hoffman, April 21, 2016